Tuesday 25 August 2015

The difference between confidence and self-esteem

Everyday, most people face the battle of their own minds. It can influence the way they dress themselves, how they choose to interact with people, or whether they choose to do so at all. These things can be influenced by either your confidence or your self-esteem. Now, a lot of people get these two mixed up, assuming that they are basically the same thing.

For people with either issues (or worse, both), the general reaction is this;
They're not the same! But, that's not your fault for misunderstanding. It's an honest mistake, but from reading this pointless blog from the perspective of a ranting teenager, you should hopefully not make this mistake again.

'Your degree of confidence, called self-confidence, is the trust or faith that you have in yourself and your abilities. Self-esteem is the opinion you have of yourself.'

Okay, so lets create a scenario. Confidence is usually needed for everyday life, right? To approach someone in the store to ask them where they keep the lube or mushrooms (hopefully not for the same situation), or going by yourself to a new place to meet a friend.
So, when you have a lack of confidence, it's really hard for you to believe that you can do this.

You're planning a route to a new place, to meet said friend. You've never done this before and you're nervous, which is normal.
Unless you're a robot.
I'm watching you.

Back to the scenario-

A lack of confidence is being worried or believing that you won't be able to plan this journey, because you've never done it before.

A lack of high self-esteem is believing that you won't be able to plan this journey, because you're stupid/lazy/insert self loathing statement here.

With a lack of confidence, it's usually down to you being worried because you've never done something before, so you're naturally worried about messing up. If you take the plunge, it will become easier over time and you will gain confidence with this certain subject /situation. If you try and fail, it could knock you, but you've got to keep ploughing on!

With a lack of high self-esteem, you may believe that you're not good/you'll never be good at something because of how you are as a person. You may think that because of your abilities (or lack of- hey, nobody can be perfect), the way you look, smell, talk etc. could prevent you from doing things without you doubting yourself. Or worse, it could stop you from doing it at all! Appreciate your flaws, and remember that they make you YOU. Also, love the things you can do, you should be proud of yourself. Nobody can be perfect, but that's what makes us, us. Everyone deserves to love themselves, even if it takes some time. It'll be worth it.

Anyway, what do you think?
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And, as always; stay happy and imperfectly perfect. :)



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