Tuesday 25 August 2015

The difference between confidence and self-esteem

Everyday, most people face the battle of their own minds. It can influence the way they dress themselves, how they choose to interact with people, or whether they choose to do so at all. These things can be influenced by either your confidence or your self-esteem. Now, a lot of people get these two mixed up, assuming that they are basically the same thing.

For people with either issues (or worse, both), the general reaction is this;
They're not the same! But, that's not your fault for misunderstanding. It's an honest mistake, but from reading this pointless blog from the perspective of a ranting teenager, you should hopefully not make this mistake again.

'Your degree of confidence, called self-confidence, is the trust or faith that you have in yourself and your abilities. Self-esteem is the opinion you have of yourself.'

Okay, so lets create a scenario. Confidence is usually needed for everyday life, right? To approach someone in the store to ask them where they keep the lube or mushrooms (hopefully not for the same situation), or going by yourself to a new place to meet a friend.
So, when you have a lack of confidence, it's really hard for you to believe that you can do this.

You're planning a route to a new place, to meet said friend. You've never done this before and you're nervous, which is normal.
Unless you're a robot.
I'm watching you.

Back to the scenario-

A lack of confidence is being worried or believing that you won't be able to plan this journey, because you've never done it before.

A lack of high self-esteem is believing that you won't be able to plan this journey, because you're stupid/lazy/insert self loathing statement here.

With a lack of confidence, it's usually down to you being worried because you've never done something before, so you're naturally worried about messing up. If you take the plunge, it will become easier over time and you will gain confidence with this certain subject /situation. If you try and fail, it could knock you, but you've got to keep ploughing on!

With a lack of high self-esteem, you may believe that you're not good/you'll never be good at something because of how you are as a person. You may think that because of your abilities (or lack of- hey, nobody can be perfect), the way you look, smell, talk etc. could prevent you from doing things without you doubting yourself. Or worse, it could stop you from doing it at all! Appreciate your flaws, and remember that they make you YOU. Also, love the things you can do, you should be proud of yourself. Nobody can be perfect, but that's what makes us, us. Everyone deserves to love themselves, even if it takes some time. It'll be worth it.

Anyway, what do you think?
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And, as always; stay happy and imperfectly perfect. :)



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Thursday 20 August 2015

Why books can be better than films

ANOTHER RANDOM BLOG!

Okay, so I know that straight away this is a very sensitive subject amongst most. With books, you have three groups;

The 'the book is better than the film and no-one can sway my opinion on that because the films are shit and asdfCVXGSADVS'.

The 'why would anyone read the book when the tECHNOLOGY is in front of us??? We don't have to think too hard about what's happening because it's directly in front of us, books suck yeah!!'

and finally, the 'who gives a fuck' group.

I have many different opinions upon the matter, but I'm going to back my opinions up with logical explanations, hoping to possibly convince the people reading (hey, mum) that what I'm saying makes sense, and that I'm not a half witted gimboid who insists that basic statements with no back up to as to why they would work, are true.
Anyway, the short answer to 'Which is better?', could be a mixture of the first two groups. Sometimes the films are better, sometimes the books are better. Buckle up for some serious logic!

As I've noticed, whenever I read a book, I get the crazy idea that the film producer is going to stick exactly to the plot, character, scenes, etc, and believe that my perception of the book will be put out in front of me. In reality, that is completely impossible. You could get 100 people to read the same book, and each person will have a different idea on the voice of what the character may be, the interior design of a certain room, the body language and tone of voice someone may have, etc. That's because the author has to go into so much detail, so that you can stretch your imagination to its extreme and create these wonderful theories of this non-existent universe. Authors add in the tiny things you can't get from a film, they tell you when the character is stressed or bored, lying, feeling some internal anguish that you can only truly understand from reading about it or experiencing it yourself. It points out the sighs, coughs, cynical laughter from another character, and so on. Although you may not have been through the characters pain/happiness personally, you can get so wrapped up in this persons universe that you begin to experience it yourself. You become the character.

I've noticed, however, that sometimes films can be superior or on the same level of a book. I've noticed that The Hunger Games is extremely like the book, which is pleasing but also annoying when you know exactly what is going to happen next!
The best films I've seen, are those that do not have books. This is purely because, it doesn't have something previous to it that goes into further detail, it doesn't have anything for the watcher to rely on to understand how the characters felt/acted. These types of films cover and go into full depth about their characters and usually have fantastic plots and/or narration throughout,

Anyway, that's my rambling done for now. At the end of the day, who gives a fuck?




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